### Description
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#21618
This PR optimizes grouped conv by 1) more sequential memory access in
gpu 2) reusing input's data to reduce global memory access times.
See `Conv|GroupedConv` op in
[Wav2Vec2](https://huggingface.co/facebook/wav2vec2-base-960h) becomes
92 ms from 1058 ms on iGPUs with 32 EU.
For the whole model on my iGPUs with 32 EU,
wav2vec2 model becomes 982ms from 1942 ms.
squeezebert-uncased model becomes 71.86ms from 431.77ms.
### Motivation and Context
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