### Description
optimize default session options parsing.
- do minimal property assignment to the passed in `options` object.
- modify default value of `enableCpuMemArena` and `enableMemPattern` to
`false`. We don't get benefits from enabling these 2 flags in web
assembly
Added a check for tensor validation on the input - this change fixes the
quiet abort WASM takes when processing a non tensor data in
"OrtGetTensorData"
**Motivation and Context**
At the current status when we try to process non-tensor data through
OrtGetTensorData and exception is thrown which results in a quiet abort
from WASM (assuming WASM was built without exception handling).
I added a check in the C API to catch this case and output a meaningful
message to the user
[example_error_github_12622.zip](https://github.com/microsoft/onnxruntime/files/9464328/example_error_github_12622.zip)
