### Description
Update protobuf_cmake.patch to allow extra disablements. ORT repo
already patches protobuf to not disable the warning 4996.
### Motivation and Context
To meet SDL requirements, Microsoft repos have to fail build if there is
warning 4996
Binskim also gives errors if warning 4996 is disabled.
We can suppress the Binskim issues, but we need a way to disable the
warnings for the minimal set of code that has them.
Right now, WindowsAI disables 4996 for entirety of ORT, but it should
only be disabled for protobuf.
### Description
upgrade protobuf to 3.20.2, same as onnx 1.13.0
### Motivation and Context
Per component governance requirement and Fixes#14060
unused-parameter error occurs in 2 conditions.
1. compile protolbuf
`onnxruntime_src/cmake/external/protobuf/src/google/protobuf/repeated_ptr_field.h:752:66:
error: unused parameter ‘prototype’ [-Werror=unused-parameter]`
2. include onnx_pb.h
```
2023-01-28T10:20:15.0410853Z FAILED: CMakeFiles/onnxruntime_pybind11_state.dir/onnxruntime_src/onnxruntime/python/onnxruntime_pybind_iobinding.cc.o
......
2023-01-28T10:20:15.0466024Z from /build/Debug/_deps/onnx-src/onnx/onnx_pb.h:51,
2023-01-28T10:20:15.0466958Z from /onnxruntime_src/include/onnxruntime/core/framework/to_tensor_proto_element_type.h:10,
....
2023-01-28T10:20:15.0609678Z /build/Debug/_deps/onnx-build/onnx/onnx-operators-ml.pb.h:1178:25: required from here
2023-01-28T10:20:15.0610895Z /onnxruntime_src/cmake/external/protobuf/src/google/protobuf/repeated_ptr_field.h:752:66: error: unused parameter ‘prototype’ [-Werror=unused-parameter]
2023-01-28T10:20:15.0611707Z cc1plus: all warnings being treated as errors
```
https://dev.azure.com/onnxruntime/2a773b67-e88b-4c7f-9fc0-87d31fea8ef2/_apis/build/builds/874605/logs/22
Patch Protobuf and ONNX's cmake files and enforce BinSkim check.
This PR has overlap with #13523 . I would prefer to get this one merged
first so that we can finished the BinSkim work, and I try to make this
PR as small as possible.