### Description
Added CUDNN Frontend and used it for NHWC convolutions, and optionally
fuse activation.
#### Backward compatible
- For model existed with FusedConv, model can still run.
- If ORT is built with cuDNN 8, cuDNN frontend will not be built into
binary. Old kernels (using cudnn backend APIs) are used.
#### Major Changes
- For cuDNN 9, we will enable cudnn frontend to fuse convolution and
bias when a provider option `fuse_conv_bias=1`.
- Remove the fusion of FusedConv from graph transformer for CUDA
provider, so there will not be FusedConv be added to graph for CUDA EP
in the future.
- Update cmake files regarding to cudnn settings. The search order of
CUDNN installation in build are like the following:
* environment variable `CUDNN_PATH`
* `onnxruntime_CUDNN_HOME` cmake extra defines. If a build starts from
build.py/build.sh, user can pass it through `--cudnn_home` parameter, or
by environment variable `CUDNN_HOME` if `--cudnn_home` not used.
* cudnn python package installation directory like
python3.xx/site-packages/nvidia/cudnn
* CUDA installation path
#### Potential Issues
- If ORT is built with cuDNN 8, FusedConv fusion is no longer done
automatically, so some model might have performance regression. If user
still wants FusedConv operator for performance reason, they can still
have multiple ways to walkaround: like use older version of onnxruntime;
or use older version of ORT to save optimized onnx, then run with latest
version of ORT. We believe that majority users have moved to cudnn 9
when 1.20 release (since the default in ORT and PyTorch is cudnn 9 for 3
months when 1.20 release), so the impact is small.
- cuDNN graph uses TF32 by default, and user cannot disable TF32 through
the use_tf32 cuda provider option. If user encounters accuracy issue
(like in testing), user has to set environment variable
`NVIDIA_TF32_OVERRIDE=0` to disable TF32. Need update the document of
use_tf32 later.
#### Follow ups
This is one of PRs that target to enable NHWC convolution in CUDA EP by
default if device supports it. There are other changes will follow up to
make it possible.
(1) Enable `prefer_nhwc` by default for device with sm >= 70.
(2) Change `fuse_conv_bias=1` by default after more testing.
(3) Add other NHWC operators (like Resize or UpSample).
### Motivation and Context
The new CUDNN Frontend library provides the functionality to fuse
operations and provides new heuristics for kernel selection. Here it
fuses the convolution with the pointwise bias operation. On the [NVIDIA
ResNet50](https://pytorch.org/hub/nvidia_deeplearningexamples_resnet50/)
we get a performance boost from 49.1144 ms to 42.4643 ms per inference
on a 2560x1440 input (`onnxruntime_perf_test -e cuda -I -q -r 100-d 1 -i
'prefer_nhwc|1' resnet50.onnx`).
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Co-authored-by: Tianlei Wu <tlwu@microsoft.com>
Co-authored-by: Maximilian Mueller <maximilianm@nvidia.com>
